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Does your Kid have Unshakeable Self Confidence?

Is your child struggling with confidence at school, socially, in sports or with bullies? Would you like to empower your child with unshakeable self-esteem so that he or she could tackle any level of book, handle not being in the so called “in crowd,” undertake a new athletic endeavor without getting so easily discouraged or even stand up to a persistent bully. Every parent wants the best for their child. Every parent wants their child to have that special edge to give them the leg up in handling adversity and new challenges. Every parent wants their son or daughter to have confidence. But, the problem is that you cannot give a kid confidence. It does not work that way. Children, like adults, can obtain confidence only one way – the old fashioned way – they have to earn it.

The best thing a parent can do is find a positive nurturing environment where their child is going to have the opportunity to set goals, be taught how to work towards those goals and let them feel the boost in self esteem when the goals are achieved. I call this process “goal realization.” Only through tangible goal realization is real long term confidence acquired.

As parents we want our child to feel great about themselves so we will often praise their efforts in hopes that this will do the trick. It is almost instinct for a parent to do so. And, it is fine to praise your child because it gives them important support that they need. Unfortunately, this does not give a child confidence. Why, because kids are too smart. They know if they are good or bad at something. If your child is playing basketball and rarely if ever makes a basket and you repeatedly praise him or her – they know that they are not that good. If, however, they practice for hours with friends, alone, in lieu of playing video games or watching tv (sacrifice) – then when they start to make baskets they feel great inside. This feeling is not fleeting nor can it be dampened by others. Hence, the confidence becomes unshakeable because it was earned.

Successful adults, like successful children, are unique in that they set, work at and achieve goals. These individuals also master the art of establishing short and long term goals. Short term objectives must be reasonably obtainable in a timely fashion. When short term goal upon short term goal are added together, eventually the long term aim is realized. If only the bigger end go